What Signal Are You Really Sending Out in Love?

How Your Energetic Patterns Might Be Attracting the Same Relationship Storyline Over and Over

Before we found each other, although our asks were different, we both had moments where we wondered:

Why do I keep attracting people who aren't right for me? Why are people reaching out who seem so far from what I'm truly looking for?

For Kim, it felt like people who hadn't done the inner work were showing up again and again. Deep down, she was putting out the signal of: "Just be a nice person, and I'll do the work-arounds."

She thought being a "relationship person" meant making it work no matter what. But underneath it all, she was accepting less than she deserved—especially from those who weren't emotionally aligned.

Roger, on the other hand, wasn't putting out his full signal at all. There were parts of him—his creative depth, spiritual insight, and strong values—that he wasn't fully leading with.

Instead, he found himself dimming or compartmentalizing who he was, attracting connections that only reflected a fraction of what he had to offer. It took time and reflection to realize he didn't have to settle for someone who only resonated with one piece of him—he could be fully seen, fully loved.

At the time, we didn't realize it, but we were each putting out an energetic signal—a kind of frequency—that was quietly shaping our experiences in love.

And what we've come to understand is this: Most people aren't attracting the wrong relationships because they're too old, not enough, or unlucky in love. They're simply attracting the same kind of love over and over…

Because of the signal they're unknowingly putting out.

Your Energy Tells a Story—Even Before You Speak

You may think you're leading with your heart. (And yes, your energy does enter the room before you do.)

But if fear is still running quietly in the background—fear of being alone, of getting hurt again, of losing yourself—you might be broadcasting a very different message.

Here are just a few of the signals we see all the time:

• Leading with sexuality: You might create chemistry fast… but then wonder why it fizzles just as quickly.

• Leading with your "highlight reel" (accomplishments, lifestyle, who you know): You may attract admiration, but not emotional depth.

• Leading with self-protection: You might appear open and kind… but your energy says, "I'm not sure I can trust you."

It doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. It just means the relationship you're calling in might not match the signal you're actually sending out.

Awareness Changes Everything

This was one of the biggest shifts in our own love stories: Becoming aware of the quiet ways we were showing up… and how our energy was saying something very different than our words.

And once we saw it, we were able to shift it. Not overnight, but with care, awareness, practice, and most of all, compassion for ourselves. 

Not to perform. Not to manipulate. But to become truly aligned with the love we were ready to experience.

We've seen this same shift in many of the people we work with.

One client—we'll call her Teri—came from a high-profile family. She often led with that fact, thinking it gave her worth. But what she didn't realize was that this was an energetic signal of insecurity: "I'm not enough on my own."

That signal attracted people who took advantage of her generosity and trust—until it left her emotionally depleted and filing for bankruptcy.

It took time and deep reflection, but she eventually rewrote that belief. She began to see herself as enough without her name, without the flash. And she started attracting people who saw her value for who she really was.

This kind of inner shift changes everything.

How to Identify Your Relationship Signal: A Self-Assessment Guide

While we'll dive much deeper into this in our upcoming workshop, you can start your transformation today by taking inventory of the patterns in your past relationships.

Ask yourself these key questions:

1. What recurring challenges have appeared across multiple relationships?

2. Which emotional patterns keep showing up despite dating different people?

3. What do you typically share about yourself in the first hour of meeting someone new?

4. Which parts of yourself do you highlight or instinctively hide when dating?

Many of our clients discover a crucial insight: what they think is signaling strength—like "I won't allow bad treatment into my life"—might actually be received as "I won't allow love into my life." This subtle energetic difference can unintentionally repel the authentic connection you're seeking.

Remember, awareness is the first step to transformation. By recognizing your unconscious relationship signals, you gain the power to change them.

Transform Your Relationship Patterns: Join Our Live Workshop

This powerful insight about your energetic relationship signal is just one of five transformational shifts we'll be teaching in our upcoming live workshop, designed specifically for singles over 50.

When you begin to shift the energy you're putting out—on dates, in conversation, and in how you carry yourself—you'll stop attracting the same patterns in love and open yourself to the authentic, fulfilling relationship you deserve.

👉 Join us this June for our live "From Loneliness to Love: 5 Proven Ways to Manifest a Meaningful Relationship After 50" workshop!

During this 60-minute session (plus 15-minute Q&A), you'll discover:

• Why your past relationship patterns keep repeating (and how to begin to break the cycle)

• The unconscious signals you're sending that may be attracting misaligned partners

• Practical techniques to realign your energy with the love you truly desire

• A proven framework for authentic connection that works especially well for those over 50

Join our waitlist today! Sign up now to be first in line when registration opens and you'll receive priority access to limited spots and exclusive early-bird pricing.

💫 Know someone who's been feeling discouraged in love? Share this blog and workshop information with them—sometimes the right insight at the right time can change everything.

Kim Bajorek & Roger Hardnock

Manifestationship® Coaches

Helping people create authentic,fulfilling relationships through conscious awareness and intentional growth

Are you ready to transform your relationship patterns? Schedule a free 20-minute discovery call to learn how our personalized coaching can help you attract the love you deserve.