Before We Met, the Universe Was Already Writing Our Love Story

On synchronicities, breadcrumbs, and becoming so whole that love has no choice but to find you.

There is a moment — if you do the inner work long enough and honestly enough — when something quietly shifts. You stop searching. Not because you’ve given up, but because you’ve arrived at a place within yourself that feels whole. Complete. Enough.

And it’s in that place — that peaceful, unforced, genuinely-okay-to-be-alone place — that the universe seems to lean in and say: Now. Now you’re ready. And I’ve had your person waiting all along.

This is not a fairy tale; it’s what happened to us.

The Knowing Before the Meeting

Before Kim and Roger ever saw each other’s face, they had each independently arrived at the same quiet conclusion: they would rather be alone than settle. Not as a defense mechanism. Not as resignation. As a genuine, peaceful, yet firm knowing.

Still, they both tried. They each dipped a toe in, tested the waters, talked to other people. But there was a feeling that kept returning — a gentle but unmistakable “Nope, not them.” Not with cruelty, but rather with clarity.

They both wondered at times: Am I being too picky? Am I putting myself in a very small box? But underneath the wondering was a steadiness. A trust. An unspoken agreement with the universe that they had made their request — clearly, honestly, from the deepest part of themselves — and they were willing to wait.

At some point in that season of quiet readiness, Kim did something that can only be described as an act of pure faith. Without knowing his name, without knowing his face, she spoke out loud to the universe — to “him,” wherever he was: “I’m ready for you. I know you’re looking for me. I’m looking for you too. Let’s find each other.” On his end, Roger felt her getting closer and closer — a warmth, a pull, an unmistakable sense that she was on her way.

They hadn’t seen each other’s photo. They didn’t know what the other looked like. But they had each, privately, made up a name for the person they were waiting for. Kim’s name for Roger was Ted. Roger’s name for Kim was Jenny. And when those names appeared in their lives, there was a feeling — warm, inexplicable, certain — that they were getting closer.

And then they met, not in person, but online — during Covid.

For five months they wrote to each other. There was no rushing. No declarations. No blind leaping. Just a slow, intentional, deepening recognition. And somewhere in those five months, without either of them saying the words out loud, they both knew. They had found Jenny and Ted.

Not falling. Recognizing.

The Breadcrumbs That Proved It

There’s a difference between a coincidence and a confirmation. Coincidences happen. Confirmations mean something. They arrive at exactly the right moment, in exactly the right way, and they cause something in you to go quiet and still — because you know, without being able to explain why, that you’re being shown something.

It was Kim’s birthday and Roger had hidden a box of gifts for her in a park between where they each lived — a gesture of such tender, thoughtful creativity that it said everything about who he was. That evening they spoke by phone. Kim mentioned she’d just finished the last of her very favorite tequila on a Zoom birthday dinner with a friend.

Roger paused. “What a coincidence,” he said. “I got you a new bottle for your birthday — knowing you like tequila — but it was too big to hide. I was going to save it for when we meet.”

He sent her a photo. She sent him a photo of her empty bottle.

It was the exact same bottle. A very unique bottle. Not a matter of preference for him — Roger doesn’t even know tequila. He had simply been guided to it. When he saw the bottle on the shelf, there was a quiet yet powerful knowing—this is the one.

But the universe wasn’t finished.

Later in the conversation, Kim played a birthday message for Roger — her friend Matt singing a wonderfully silly version of Happy Birthday. Roger listened, then asked quietly: “Is that Matt Kahn?”

“Yes!” Kim said. “How did you know?”

He recognized Matt’s voice from some YouTube videos he’d watched. “I’m actually reading his book right now,” Roger said. “All for Love.”

“Do you have it near you?” Kim asked. He did. It was literally on the table next to him. “Turn it over,” she said, “and look carefully at the back.”

There on the back cover was a photograph of Matt Kahn. And beneath it, the photo credit:

Photo by Kim Bajorek.

Consider what this means. In the weeks before they met, Roger would sit on his patio and write to Kim — the woman he was pursuing, getting to know, feeling drawn toward. There on the table beside him, as he wrote those letters, sat Matt Kahn’s book — with Kim’s name on the back cover. He was literally in her presence before he ever knew her.

At the time, Roger knew Matt only through his work — YouTube videos that had moved him, a book he’d been compelled to read. He had no idea that the woman he was writing to had taken that very photograph. But the universe knew. And in the way that aligned lives tend to unfold, Matt would later become very dear to them both — the synchronicity rippling outward long after that magical phone call had ended.

And when Kim and Roger finally made plans to meet in person for the first time, Matt — this person whose voice had sparked one of their most extraordinary moments — helped Kim choose the outfit she would wear on that day.

The thread ran all the way through.

The One Thing She Almost Forgot to Ask For

Kim had done the work. She knew what she wanted. She had made her request to the universe with clarity and intention — and then, just before she finalized it, one more thing arrived. A word she hadn’t thought to include until that moment.

Expansive.

She wanted to feel expansive in love. She wanted someone whose acceptance of her would make her become more herself — not less. More of the version of herself that had been quietly hiding behind pretense, behind old beliefs that she had to be something else in order to be loved.

Roger, without knowing that was her final request, showed up and became exactly that.

Together, they didn’t just find love. They received what they asked for — and so much more than they had even known to ask for.

What This Means for You

We share this not simply to tell you a love story — though we hope you find it as beautiful as we do. We share it because every element of what happened to us was the result of inner work done first.

The clarity. The patience. The willingness to wait rather than settle. The specific, honest, heartfelt request to the universe about how we wanted to feel in love — not just what we wanted our person to look like on paper. All of it was intentional.

Genuine change always starts from within. 

And the synchronicities? They weren’t luck. They were confirmation. The universe was leaving breadcrumbs the whole time — showing up in tequila bottles and book covers and a voice on the phone — saying: "You’re on the right path, keep going, your person is getting closer."

So here is what we want to ask you:

Have you gotten clear on how you want to feel in love — not just what you want your person to have or be?

Have you asked yourself if you want to feel expansive? And, if not, what might expansive look like for you?

Are there breadcrumbs in your life right now that you might be missing, because you’re too focused on the absence of love rather than the signals pointing you toward it?

We didn’t find each other by accident. We found each other because we had both done the work to become truly ready — and in that readiness, the universe had no choice but to conspire.

If you’re reading this and something in you is quietly saying “I want that,” 

that feeling itself might just be your first breadcrumb.

With love,

Kim and Roger

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Kim and Roger are Manifestationship® coaches who help adult singles manifest authentic, fulfilling relationships through conscious awareness and intentional inner transformation. Through their unique approach as both a man and woman team, they guide clients in becoming magnetic to the love that is possible for them.