How We Found Each Other (And Created Manifestationship®): The Love Story Behind Our Work

If you're new here, welcome! We're Kim and Roger, and we help people manifest meaningful relationships. But before we became Manifestationship® coaches, we were two people doing our own deep inner work to find love. This is our story—and how it became the foundation for everything we teach.

Before We Met: Two People Refusing to Settle

Roger's Journey

Roger's 20-year marriage had ended six years prior. He'd tried dating apps and traditional dating, but the right person wasn't appearing. He refused to settle. Though he appeared conventional on the surface, Roger held deeply spiritual beliefs and psychic abilities he'd first discovered in his twenties. Growing up with a religious mother and atheist father, these gifts weren't something he could share at home. Working in car design and corporate roles, his appearance fit those environments perfectly, but his inner world remained largely hidden.

In past relationships, while partners might embrace "spirituality 101," he'd watch their eyes glaze over when conversations went deeper. He felt constantly capped in what he could authentically share. His spiritual work had taught him that the power to create significant shifts lay within him, not outside—but finding others who truly understood this knowing proved challenging.

Roger imagined conversations they'd share, dinners they'd cook together, trips they'd take. But most importantly, he envisioned someone who could go as deep as he longed to go—to those "deep and meaningful" conversations that would feed his soul. A love that would feel effortless and natural, seamless in a way no previous love had been.

Kim's Journey

Kim had ended a nine-year relationship five years prior and had grown comfortable with single life. She'd accepted many things in that relationship that felt misaligned, but having lost her intended fiancé in a car accident years before, stability had felt precious—even imperfect stability.

Determined never again to feel limited in expressing her full self, Kim chose to work diligently on her inner world. While being alone felt acceptable, being in love with the partner she was beginning to envision would surpass anything she'd experienced.

Daily journaling became her primary tool. She brought the future into the present moment, writing about meeting her person, their dates, their shared life. Crucially, she imagined their love five and ten years ahead—something she'd never done before, which might have changed everything about her previous relationship.

She healed old wounds and examined the origins of limiting beliefs, learning to dissolve their power. Kim envisioned a man who appeared "normal" but possessed deep spirituality. Someone who would celebrate her capacity for love and encourage every aspect of her authentic self to emerge.

Sound familiar?

The Inner Work That Changed Everything

Unknown to each other, we were doing remarkably parallel work. Roger brought the future into the present moment through vision videos while examining his patterns. Kim brought the future into the present moment through journaling while healing old beliefs.

We were both becoming crystal clear about what we wanted and doing the deep work to become people capable of receiving that caliber of love.

This process—awareness, healing, and conscious manifestation—would later become the foundation of Manifestationship®, our trademarked program.

When the Universe Said Yes

In December 2019, Kim discovered Roger on a dating app. His writing captivated her—vulnerable yet authentic, with remarkable depth balanced by genuine humility. She screenshotted his photo, keeping it on her phone.

The app allowed her to see ten people each day, and even with a strong pull toward Roger, she let him pass by. Part of her still didn't feel deserving or ready for someone like him. She spent time unraveling these beliefs, doing the deeper work needed to truly believe she could have this caliber of partnership.

Trusting her inner work, Kim felt prepared and often spoke aloud: "I'm ready for you. I know you're ready for me too. Let's find each other."

Weeks later, Roger appeared again on the same platform—the only one Kim ever used, and one she rarely checked. This time, Kim knew she wouldn't hesitate. She pressed "like" with absolute knowing that she'd hear from him.

She did—immediately.

Old-Fashioned Modern Dating

Kim's dating profile explicitly stated her need for unhurried connection. She required someone who genuinely wanted to know her, not just meet quickly. Urgency would disqualify him entirely.

Roger, naturally thoughtful and deliberate, wanted to ease into knowing someone special. He refused to feel pressured by societal expectations or age-related timelines. This proved challenging—previous connections had demanded immediate meetings, and he'd been criticized for moving "too slowly."

Then the COVID lockdown arrived. Living alone, we both began writing daily letters—long, thoughtful exchanges that continued for five months. Neither felt alone anymore.

We never wrote "I love you"—neither could express that before meeting in person—but this felt exactly right. Old-fashioned romance meeting modern technology.

Through his letters, Kim recognized that her inner work had succeeded. Through her letters, Roger knew the same. But it was in their written exchanges that they discovered their shared spiritual depth—something both had learned to keep carefully guarded.

When Kim shared that she worked in Hollywood, in Visual Effects, where the company owners regularly took staff to Abraham Hicks events, Roger began to see they had far more in common than he'd dared hope. Her world was filled with people who understood the deeper spiritual principles he'd felt so alone in knowing. The synchronicities multiplied—they loved the same music, and incredibly, they both played piano.

Synchronicities That Confirmed Everything

During one phone conversation, Roger mentioned reading a Matt Kahn book. Kim's delighted shriek prompted her to ask him to examine the back cover closely.

There was Matt's photo, credited to photographer Kim Bajorek.

Suddenly, Kim's move from San Diego to Los Angeles four years earlier made perfect sense. Everything did.

Synchronicities like this multiplied—the Universe's unmistakable confirmation that we'd found each other.

After five months, we finally met in a park halfway between our homes, where Roger had begun hiding thoughtful gifts that proved he'd absorbed every detail Kim had shared in her letters.

Five years later, we're still discovering synchronicities.

From Our Love to Manifestationship®

Comparing notes about our individual inner work revealed something extraordinary: we'd done virtually identical processes without knowing it. The same healing, the same pattern recognition, the same conscious manifestation process.

People constantly asked, "What is this between you two? How did you create this?" The answer couldn't fit into casual conversation, so we began teaching what we'd learned.

We realized that age was never the real barrier to finding love after 50. The actual obstacles were everything now addressed in our coaching, workshops, and Manifestationship® program.

Manifestationship® encompasses all our teachings, beginning with awareness and culminating in manifestation. Every step builds upon the previous one—none can be skipped. While the complete program contains many elements, the five most crucial steps form the foundation of our workshop: "From Loneliness to Love."

What This Means for You

If you're reading this and thinking, "I want what they have," know this: it's absolutely possible. Our love isn't special because we're exceptional people. It's extraordinary because we each completed the inner work necessary to recognize, sustain, and attract this level of partnership.

We're currently offering a free checklist: "Are You Attracting What You Say You Want in Love?" (Get Your Copy) It reveals whether disconnect exists between your stated desires and your energetic output.

Here's what we know with certainty: Love doesn't expire, and you're not behind schedule. You're arriving exactly on time.

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Kim Bajorek & Roger Hardnock

Manifestationship® Coaches

Helping people create authentic, fulfilling relationships through conscious awareness and intentional growth